I always say that all of my REAL friends and I have gone to WAR.  Most people say, "I don't want to go to WAR," even after I reveal it's purpose. (Establish boundaries and argue about everything until there is nothing left but common ground).  SEE "The Friendship Manual"

FAST forward in time.

They argue with you about everything.  Get angry when you correct them and try to change your core values.  They don't want to go to war to become your friend, because they were always about destroying you. Befriend and betray.

Meanwhile, my friends that I've been to war with, hardly argue about anything. And even then it's a minor debate.

Make it make sense.